If you saw my last post, then you know what today is all about. I’m starting my journey on #100authenticdays.
I feel like I could write a treatise on the subject of authenticity, and how important I believe it is. I have never been good at faking it, and I have been a chronic oversharer for most of my life. I was always the person who, when asked how I was doing, answered honestly. No one answers that question honestly. Hell, no one asks that question expecting an honest response. It’s an automatic nicety that’s tossed out there, but most people really don’t give a shit for the answer.
Doesn’t that suck?
What’s the point of interacting with people, of asking questions, if you don’t care about their answers? What’s the point in having all of these online “friends” if all you’re going to do is post selfies, photos of your food/kids/furbabies, and your feet in front of some body of water? I don’t actually get how that is “social.”
So, diving deeper into what #100authenticdays means to me, I’m looking for ways to connect more deeply with my online community. Some of those people are friends in real life that I see on a somewhat regular basis. I’m not talking about those people as much, because let’s face it, live conversation goes deeper anyway. But I have so many old friends in my social networks! So many friends from school, from work, from music, from writing, all of whom I cared enough about to “friend” but don’t necessarily have a real connection with.
I’m not saying I want to be besties with all of you. Hell, I don’t have time to catch up with my own best friends, offline. But I want my online interactions to be meaningful. I don’t just want to “like” people’s statuses, or type “LOL” at a video someone posted.
I. WANT. MORE.
And I think we all do.
I find myself writing these posts, and I love the feedback I get from people about them. I feel like I’ve come home, now that I’ve rediscovered writing. And I keep hearing from friends and former coworkers, and even some family, that they feel like they have a little window into my life. And everyone seems to really love that. Amazing! I am, like I said before, a happy little oversharer.
It is so INCREDIBLY freeing, to start to let go of the fear of being judged on what you share. To let go of the expectations that you should only share the happy moments. To take off the veneer, or at least stop re-applying it. As I mentioned, it’s one of the reasons I started my blog. And truly, the satisfaction is quadrupled when I hear from people who tell me that I’m not the only one, or that they’re so happy to know that they’re not the only ones.
Just a few days after I wrote my initial post about authenticity, the Husband and I tuned into an episode of The Psychology Podcast, by Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, featuring Todd Kashdan, on dancing with your dark side. It was like they had read my post, only the post wasn’t yet published, and the podcast was 7 months old. I haven’t read his book yet, but the interview had me saying, “Yes! Yes!” the whole way through. Taken from Todd’s website:
Americans are not fans of anger, sadness, guilt, and other negative emotions. Just take a tour of the bookstore aisles and you’ll see countless titles about positivity and happiness. We invite you to take a closer look. We think that you can gain more from accessing the full range of your emotions. You don’t have to avoid discomfort to live a meaningful and engaging life. In fact, a bit of occasional anxiety or guilt can propel you to do great things.
Ummm, I can’t say this any more eloquently, so I’m just going to say YES.
Before this turns into a thesis, I’m going to sign off and start my journey. I’m so excited to have so many bloggers and friends and people I haven’t even met join me. Together, we can all be real, for a change.